The power of belifes

This is a clip from a severely "disabled" guy named Sean Stepenson:



What are YOUR limiting beliefs?

How can you change them?

Another night out with the ladies =)

Attraction Triggers

The differences between males and females regarding attraction triggers:



As always, your comments are appreciated!

Some more Ben Harper...

Hmmmm this guy should write anthems:



I believe in a few things
God the devil and love
cause I've looked up from the bottom
and I've stared down from above

I have faith in a few things
divinity and grace
but even when I'm on my knees
I know the devil prays

and you're working your way
from the ground on down

I hate to say I love you
because it means that I
will be with you forever
or will sadly say goodbye

I love to say I hate you
because it means that I
will live my life happily without you
or will sadly live a lie

and you're working your way
from the ground on down

life is short
and if your lookin' for extension
with your time
you had best do well

cause there's good deeds
and there is good intention
they're as far apart
as heaven and hell

and you're working your way
from the ground on down

Sorry guys, but there is no escaping ethics when it comes to sex, love, and human socialization.....

Clift Thesis Analysis Part 1

I'm still working through the Clift Thesis -

My observations so far are that she is presenting a fairly sympathetic portrait of The Community, but is WAY too bound up in the "Fraternal" thing. Also, what's with the Feminist Rhetoric? - "Playboy objectifies women" - give me a break! WOMEN OBJECTIFY THEMSELVES in an attempt to please and manipulate men...

Sheesh...and this is 2008!

...Pg 53: Men and women awash in a sea of bewilderment because of the breakdown of cultural codes

Collapse of traditional Courtship (great meme)

Hmmmm Colonial values regarding marriage sound eerily similar to my proposal about "children without marriage"...Marriage was based on "reason" not love back then!...hahahahaha..."traditional family values" indeed...

"Romantic love" is seen as "immature and unreliable" ...again...eerily similar to my recent discussions, and even backed by science...My "Crack heads getting married and raising children" metaphor....only it's at least 200 years old, lol....


hahahaha..."bundling boards"!..they surely found a way around THAT contraption, lol...30% pre-marital conception? sounds like "modern times"!

"Men were lustful, so it stood to reason that women—contrary to the theories of the colonial era—were chaste and possibly passionless."

So THATS where the current matrix got it's start!

The roles of men and women were distinct. Common perception valued domesticity and viewed women as virtuous and morally superior to men; at the same time, a man's primary role was to support his family through work outside the home.

Ditto - WTF?

During courtship, men emphasized their own feelings while women did not do so with equal intensity. This was most likely due to the greater control that men had over their own futures than did women. Rothman notes this power imbalance and attributes the difference in emotional openness to the fact that men were responsible for being "the initiators of intimate relationships. Women were expected to receive offers of marriage."6

By the 20ies....this crap has been systematized....men must supplicate....it's STILL WITH US! Damn....... The program was written a LONG time ago...and it has some how survived the "sexual revolution" and Fememism. What a powerful idea we are fighting eh? Resiliant and virulent too...

"The problem with being a pickup artist is that there are concepts like sincerity, genuineness, trust, and connection that are important to women. And all the techniques that are so effective in beginning a relationship violate every principle necessary to maintain one."

Damn..."Style" said THAT? Not bad....sounds like he hit the same wall I did....

"Men and women often defined themselves and each other as commodities, the woman valued by the level of consumption she could demand… and the man by the level of consumption he could provide."

Ross talks about this in his 1999 tapes - It's very inhuman if you really consider it.

Despite the control that monetary power may provide them, PUAs implicitly reject their own commodification by encouraging each other not to pay during the initial stages of dating. The men of the Seduction Community insist that the expectation that a man should pay is a socially constructed and harmful gender role. In an interview withThe Hollywood Podcast, Strauss explains, "The whole point of this community is to be able to do it [pickup women] without fame, looks, or wealth, and it's totally possible."

Again - what a GREAT idea... Ross started this. This is the revolutionary aspect of the modern Pick-up community - rejection of the dehumanization of both men and women.

Too many guys are textbook black and white, trying to follow a protocol set by other PUA fuckups. If she's a cool girl and you can still pay your rent, buy the girl a damndrink and tell your friends to shut the hell up."
EXACTLY - a lack of generosity is death to any relationship...

As the era of dating continued and the relationship between economy and sex intensified, breast size, according to Bailey, became a determinant of a woman's value due to the fact that it could be easily quantified as an objective measurement of a woman's worth.

This is just sad...but all to true... =( I had a GF who mutilated her chest like this to have bigger breasts...it was sad. She lost all sensation in one of her breasts from the operation... =(((((

Much of the pickup theory within the Seduction Community is based on evolutionary theory rather thansocially prescribed norms of behavior. By doing so, PUAs find a solution to the current lack of dating structure

Nice conclusion - the "science" of reproduction and courtship dictating inter-gender dynamics - a return to the "rationalism" of the 1700's =)

More to follow as I continue working through the paper

Elana Clift Thesis

Here is a link to a well researched academic paper on the Seduction Community.

https://webspace.utexas.edu/ejc329/ElanaCliftThesis.pdf

In it the author, (a Woman) breaks down why the Community evolved, suggesting that the breakdown of traditional models and norms of courtship are responsible.

In it she states that in the Colonial Era, marriage was based on "reason" and that a man's wealth determined who he would marry. "Love" was seen as an extension of the "role" of husband or wife. This developed AFTER marriage, not before it...

Compassion, Empathy, and Detachment

Here is where I really weave Compassion, Empathy and Detachment together just before closing....

Emotional Leadership and Empathy

Some video from my recent seminar covering how to lead women emotionally in relationships. I'll be uploading more over the next several weeks, so be sure to subscribe to my feed. =)