To give you an idea of how effective these methods are, I’ve got 3 dates this weekend with 3 different HBs, AND I got a bonus date with another HB out of the blue this afternoon – one who I’ve had in comfort for a couple of weeks. She called me over some emotional drama. Got her into my bed today, but she’s still LMRing…. – whatever, I roll over, and she GRABS me, so now I resist, and say it’s time for her to leave.
She’ll be back ;-)
All the HB’s either suggested the dates, or IMMEDIATELY responded when I made the offer.
I use the DLVs, sparingly, in comfort with these women – I grudgingly admit to insecurities or flaws. This neutralizes the whole player syndrome – I’m just a regular guy.
For instance, the bonus HB had some drama at work, and was crying when she came to see me. Then she starts in on men, and masturbation ( the drama related to this… don’t ask!). Shit…. I tell her I jerk off to porn, twice a day (DLV, but with an Alpha frame) and bring her into my bedroom to get more comfortable. This cheers her up immensely – she starts going through my nightstand, examining my condoms, lube, and sex toy collection. While she is doing this, I lift up her skirt, and she LMRs me playfully, so I give her a hard smack on the ass and a backturn.
She loves it. I’m not needy, I’m not forcing myself on her, but I’m also sharing some sex secrets, and I’m willing to bail.
Comfort is all about incrementally revealing vulnerabilities while maintaining a dominant frame. This chick has not been laid in 6 YEARS (she has a kid). It’s gonna take a while to get her comfortable, and some “nice guy” DLV behavior combined with constant physical escalation and sexual tension and leading will wear her down.
If it doesn’t, there are always the other 3 chicks this weekend, plus the dozen or so others I’m currently gaming….
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
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